When Emotions Win

I will be the first to raise my hand and say that throughout my life I have made some very impulsive decisions. I let my feelings predict how I would react in plenty of situations. Let me tell you... BAD IDEA!!!!

Once the smoke clears and I start activating my brain cells, I usually find myself in a mess. Many of us react in anger, hurt, confusion, or any other emotions that we are experiencing at the time. Ideally, we should stop, think, and analyze. Do not over analyze... that is another topic for another day. We need to stop before we make any moves, think about what we are feeling, and analyze what  we desire for our hopeful outcome.

In the moment decisions, in most cases, do not end well. Be mindful of how your actions affect you as well as those around you moving forward. Spontaneity is not always a bad thing. It only becomes an issue when it is exercised incorrectly.

Bag Ladies

In the word's of Erykah Badu:

"Bag lady you gone hurt your back

 Dragging all them bags like that

 I guess nobody ever told you

 All you must hold onto, is you, is you, is you"

 

If you have ever experienced exhaustion that is unexplainable, this might be the issue. We tend to carry a lot of unnecessary baggage every where we go.  In most cases, we are not even aware of the burden until it becomes overwhelming. Once we start to experience the pain from the extra load, you would think we would start to drop some things. But no..... We continue on as if this is normal.

 

Let it go!!!!

 

Do you really need to carry around what he did to you or what she said to you? NO...YOU DON'T!!! It just leads to more bags being toted around. Though it is hard to let go, we have to do so in order to live life to the fullest. Don't let your extra weight slow you down or even stop you completely. Face those issues head on and watch your walk get easier.

 



 

Think Before You Leap

react

1. to act in return or reciprocally
2. to act in opposition
3. to act in a reverse way; go back to a former condition, stage, etc.
4. to respond to a stimulus; be affected by some influence, event, etc.

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I have been facing many challenges with my social skills. At first, I would go from 0 to 100 in 2 seconds flat. Yes...that is fast. I was wasting energy on things that were not significant in my life. Wasted time, effort, moments, peace, joy, etc...

What I have learned from these unnecessary moments is that I cannot continue to let things that are beyond my control move me to a place where I lose control...I know too many controls!!! Let me explain... I cannot control who people are and what they do. I cannot control how they respond to certain situations. I cannot control other people's emotions, tongues, or spirits. Trying to do so, would only make me aggravated and frustrated; causing me to lose control.

I refuse to lose my control any longer. Since this revelation, I have been in such a peaceful space. It is like I am on vacation within myself. Nothing but crystal clear, blue, flowing water and white sands occupy my space. I call it my inner paradise.

So... my response to foolery is to have no reaction; none, zilch, nada.

I dare you to try it!

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All About Perspective

What do you see?

It is funny how two people can look at the same picture and see different things. I have recently learned that it is not how tough my situation is but how I respond to the situation that will make the difference. These last few weeks have been very tough and trying but I have had such an unexplainable peace throughout the chaos. I learned that I could not control the situation. Trying to control it only made me exhausted and frustrated. Who wants to walk around like that? I DONT!!! I changed my attitude, put on my walking shoes, and continued to strut through the mess. Though the winds blew at 100 mph and the rains poured heavily, flooding certain aspects of my life, I remained hopeful and afloat. Thank God! I have the power to create or recreate my experiences. That power has been deposited in my bank account called life. All I have to do is make a few withdrawals every now and then when I start to feel depleted.

It's all about changing how you look at situations. It starts with reprogramming your mind to not look at the glass as half full or half empty but to look at the fact that you have a glass.

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A Woman's Worth

To all my beautiful women out there... STOP PUTTING YOURSELF ON THE SALES RACK!!!!

You are worth so much more than you give yourself credit for. In fact, you are priceless and if someone doesn't see that... they can be dismissed. School is out for them!

Let me tell you what you are not...

You are not a doormat to be walked on and over.
You are not your dress, pants, shirt, or any other size.
You are not the side chick.
You are not a hoe, thot, tramp, or any other derogatory name.
You are not a punching bag.
You are not a bank account for constant withdrawals.
You are not your hair, clothes, or shoes.
You are not what he or she said.

Let me tell you what you are...

You are love.
You are a mother, sister, daughter, and a friend.
You are the backbone of life.
You are strong.
You are intelligent.
You are delightful.
You are beauty.
You are royalty.

YOU ARE WOMAN!!!!

So Many Scars

11:59 pm December 31, 2015 ....

Everyone around me was getting hyped up about the coming year. People stopped working (yes... I was at work), the machines were cut off, and everyone gathered together to celebrate. I, however was stuck in the corner not understanding why I felt so emotional. My entire year flashed in front of my eyes and it was almost depressing.

12:00 am January 1, 2016

I stood there.. hiding.. trying to keep the tears from flowing because it had been a tough year. I was glad to see it go but I was also in a space that kept me from being truly happy at that moment. With all the cheering going on around me, one would think that I would be excited but I could not join in on the celebration. Why???? I was not where I wanted to be or with who I wanted to share the moment.

Fast forward.... 8:00 am January 1, 2016

I got a text that said that it was okay to feel that way and to let go of what I was feeling...PURGE!!!!

That is exactly what I did!

So... I look at 2015 as the battle that was won. I have many scars from the fight but I made it. I am grateful for another chance to change what I did not like about my past. I am moving forward and with each scar I am reminded that I am a warrior! And now I CELEBRATE!!!!!

Bound by the Cell phone

Bound : in bonds or chains; tied with or as if with a rope

I recently lost the use of my cell phone.  I didn't realize how dependent I had become with this little device that apparently was my life. At the moment I lost connection to the outside world, I wanted to scream... "PHONE DOWN, PHONE DOWN!!!" I tried hand to phone resuscitation, screen and button compressions, along with other emergency techniques. After about 20 minutes, I came to the realization that I had lost it.

 I was  attached to my phone. I couldn't remember a single phone number except my daughter and mother. I used it to stay in touch with my circle and those hanging on the border. I realized that I was constantly on my phone. Whether it was a call, text, or social app, it was glued to me as if it was another organ. If I forgot it at home, I would make sure to go all the way home to get it.  In hindsight, the relationship I had with my phone was toxic.

 I have had more time to do other things. I can actually have face to face conversations. I have read 2 books, took a couple of naps, and have gotten more studying done. I am not constantly looking at that little red or blue blinking light to let me know if someone has called, texted, tweeted, or poked me.

This time, though frustrating, has been liberating. I have been forced to break the chain that had me bound to my cell phone. I will eventually get another one in 3 to 5 business days but I refuse to go back to the slavery that engulfed me.