Thoughts That Kill

Thoughts!!!

Throughout my life, I did not realize how much I was sabotaging my own life by the thoughts that I kept on a daily basis. Negativity consumed my mind and therefore it controlled my life. I didn’t understand, at the time, how something so small could make such a huge impact.

Searching my kindle, I ran across a book called Your Thoughts Are Killing You by Marybeth Wuenschel. This book gave me a new perspective about changing my thoughts to avoid the struggles that I continued to find myself stumbling into.

“ A stronghold begins with just a thought and, if allowed, can grow from one thought into a series of thoughts that become default thought patterns. These thoughts take control and capture what they were never authorized to take: our peace of mind and self-control.“

All I could say after digesting those two sentences was, “WOW” !!! I was giving my negative thoughts power and they were not even supposed to have access to any of it. I had physically manifested what started as a small whisper of doubt, fear, and unworthiness into a giant mudslide called my life. I could not blame anyone or anything on this disaster. It was all me! Once I realized this, I understood that since I created this life, I could also UN-create it.

This was a process! An everyday, change how you think about things process. My perspective was no longer seeing the glass as half empty. At this point, I was just happy to have a glass. I began to become grateful for each day and each opportunity. Good or Bad. Yes, bad experiences are opportunities as well. I have done my best growing in those times.  It was not easy so I took it one small victory at a time. I celebrated when I reached every tiny step that allowed me to get closer to my goal. When I missed the mark, I did not berate myself. I just picked myself up and kept on going.

You have the ability to live an abundant life! All you have to do is believe in you!

We are not perfect and we will make mistakes, however, that is never the end. Set small attainable goals for yourself and celebrate each moment of success no matter how minor it may seem. When negative thoughts pop in, don't dwell on them. Instead, replace them with something positive.

Saving yourself starts with the thoughts you keep!

You got this!

When It Hurts to Let Go

It hurts to let go but sometimes it hurts more to hold on!

 

 "Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.” – Ann Lander
 

When we think about letting go, it can feel as if a piece of who we are is dying. It can be so intense that we don't want to experience the excruciating pain. With anticipation of the end of one thing, we do not even consider the possibility of beginning something new. We get comfortable in our pain until we become numb to the ache. We begin to bleed! We continue to bleed! We bleed out and we slowly begin to die inside.

We have to open our hands to receive all that is promised to us. Closed hands will not do anything except keep what it already holds and most of the time, the thing we are holding is toxic enough to destroy who we are. This behavior is what leads to the fear we create in our mental spaces.

 

Fear has a way of keeping us trapped in an open cage. Fear can be paralyzing for most of us because we have no clue what the other side looks like. It consumes us to the point of creating mental and physical bondage.

 

I have come to the realization that I fear success. I fear being in the spotlight. I fear being seen. I fear not being good enough for what I have been called to do. I fear not living up to other's expectations. I will not, however, let that fear keep me mentally or physically bound. I will create an atmosphere of courage within me by continuing to move while fearful. Courage is not the absence of fear. It is having the mentality to do IT anyway!